How we speak makes a difference

Your choice of words can have a huge impact on your students. With countless things going on during your busy day, you may not stop to realize this. It's important to remember that the way you phrase a compliment, give an assignment, or deliver a punishment can determine how your students respond to you in the classroom. Teachers need to know that the way we talk to kids makes a huge difference and is crucial to helping them believe in themselves and build their own communication skills. Of course, it isn't always easy to say the right thing at the drop of a hat... So, I found an article that suggests six key phrases that teachers can use to ensure that our words are coming out in a positive way that will build classroom confidence and respect.

1. Check yourself-- this phrase encourages students to take on more responsibility for their actions and choices.

-"It's time to go to the gym, please check yourself to make sure you're lined up correctly."

-"To make sure it doesn't get too noisy, check yourself to see if you're using your inside voice."

2. Next time--this is a positive alternative to "don't do this..." do THIS next time

-"Next time, please be sure and follow the rules for using art supplies."

-"Next time, please try to share the game with Andy."

3. Please make a different choice--this simply points out a behavior and asks the student to reconsider their actions. It shows students that you believe in them to make the right choice.

"Mandy, your talking is disturbing reading time. Please make a different choice."

"Frank, glue is not for throwing. Please make a different choice."

4.I see/I notice--An alternative to giving direct orders.

"I see some students not following directions."

"I notice that many of you aren't raising your hands."

5. You decide-- allows students to view the situation, be decisive, and hold their own power.

Student asks, "Can I sharpen my pencil?" Teacher says, "You decide."

Student asks, "Is this a good book for me?" Teacher says, "You choose."

6. I'm really surprised-- showing students that you expect more of them.

"The sub said you guys didn't behave yesterday during lunch. I'm really surprised by that."

"I was surprised by the behavior I saw today."

Using phrases like this can really enhance your "teacher talk" and classroom respect between everyone. These phrases promote students to make their own responsible decisions about their behavior as well as support them to make simple choices to increase their autonomy and confidence. I encourage my fellow teachers to try out some of these phrases! Please write back with comments on how they worked for you. :)